You just took a woman you met out to the movies for a date. After the movie, she wants some pizza and ice cream and you take out your ATM card without a thought of calculating the bill and pay.
You then proceed to walk her home and go home alone. That’s the right thing to do, right?
Wrong! According to a survey conducted in Europe on about 1000 women, you just made three major mistakes. First, only 3 percent of the lot were impressed by your ability to get them what they want as a whooping 68 percent would have prepared for you to cook them a meal in your house.
Secondly, a large number of women will find your indifference to the bill of the outing financially irresponsible and see you as someone that wants to show off.
They expect you to have scrutinized the bill in a way that you can know if you’re been short-changed or not and they also expect you to give whoever served you a generous tip. You might be thinking you won’t impress her with money but you’re missing a big point which is the way you handle your money can be a determinant of getting to have her eating out of your palms.
Understand How You Earn
A lot of women would rather not date men that they earn more than. There’s still some sort of stigma attached to men who find it difficult to take care of the bills. Women aren’t interested in men who earn less than they do. This doesn’t mean you have to go out actively seeking women that earn less than you do. You should instead know the direction your career is taking and how much you can earn on the way.
A lot of women are on the lookout for men who can single-handedly support the family while she’s nursing her children. Some others feel more secure knowing the family doesn’t need her salary to make ends meet.
Let Her Know About Your Debt
The average man has a thousand skeletons in his cupboard and a high percentage of this has to do with his finances. Letting your potential mate in on your secret is essential but when you let her in on it is important as nine out of 10 women would rather you put off that talk until you’re dating exclusively. The moment you let her know of your finances, it means you have become more serious with the relationship. Tell her what the situation is and how you intend to get out of any debt you may have.
There’s a likelihood she would stick to you while you try to pay your debt and will help you reduce your expenses on unnecessary and avoidable outings.
Shed Off Your Status Symbols
A recent study which polled 5,000 women in the United Kingdom found out that seventy percent of women find themselves attracted to men that “spend wisely,” compared with 19 percent who say they are attracted to big savers and only 8 percent who say they like big spenders.
As such, when you’re big on flashing your money in her eyes, women potentially see you for the present than the future. A lot of women find men with money attractive because of the financial security they bring and not because money brings financial adventure to a relationship. You can let her know you’re financially ok by being frugal and living within a budget instead of showing off all the time.
Let Her Know Of Any Present Danger
Funny enough, only about 25 percent of the women polled in the study found jewelry as their most romantic gift. 89 percent of women polled in the survey believe that at the beginning of a relationship, gifts should be as simple and inexpensive as they come. Women generally are not concerned about the price tag but would rather want you to combine thoughtfulness and surprise. This will usually result in the gifts having a memorable sentimental and attachment for them.
Show How Generous You Are
And by generosity, we are not only referring to money but time also. Women expect you to not only give them your time but also give your loved ones and other good causes your time. They find this trait an important one because it portrays you as someone who cares and is willing to be an instrument of change.
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