Bisola Aiyeola, 1st runner up of Big
Brother Naija 2017, yesterday sat down with Ebuka for an interview on
RubbinMinds. She reacted to accusations of being a bully and having
anger issues, also speaking up about the stigma that comes with being a
single mother.
"Those
are not true statements. I try ad much as possible to let myself out
when I'm upset because I've lived a number of years in my life bottling
things in and it didn't do me any good. I walk around with this lump in
my chest upset at somebody who doesn't even know that they upset me. So
if you make me upset, I'll just let it out and once it's dine, it's out
there. I do not like bullies personally, I have a couple of friends
that I have stood up for in the past. When people were saying I was
this, I was like maybe that was their own way of trying to make me look
bad on the show. But I'm not a bully, I believe in standing up for
yourself. If you can defend yourself, just go ahead and defend yourself
because nobody else will defend you netter than yourself. I'm not a
bully and maybe I talk a lot because I'm a bit expressive and it's
something I learnt in the latter part of my life and I do not regret
it."
"It
definitely would have been different. There's a stigma attached to
single mothers, especially if you have a child out of wedlock. You're
judged. A lot of people actually said to me that they thought I had my
child while I was in secondary school. I was like no, I was a grown
woman. I was 23 year old when I had her. They kind of make it seem like
the whole world is against you. It's now up to the woman to bring
herself up and I have an amazing family. My mum has always been on my
side. If I was a guy, I would be celebrated more."
On the standards being used by people to judge single mothers, would it have been different if she was a guy? Bisola replied;
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