Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad
habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a
look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits...
Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad
habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the
absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean
you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad
habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the
right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but
flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do
over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them
automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically
impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the
following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.
He’s full of excuses
He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let
you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each
time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you.
Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of
children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.
He’s narrow minded
Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t
they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than
watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap,
judgemental . about people. Some guys can seem to be the most
open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it
comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can
contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out
with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy
is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and
catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just
want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck
in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth
marrying.
He shouts
Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go
as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts,
screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.
He breaks promises
If your man casually breaks promises with you all the
time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a
bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change
anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise
early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps
doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In
simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking
you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or
anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the
foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem.
But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s
usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck.
And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke
his promises to them, too?!)
He lies
Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies
to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign
that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to
get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying
red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very
real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.
He doesn’t put you first
If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself
the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never.
Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of
prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes
last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a
good chance that it won’t change.
He’s possessive
It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first.
It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s
still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break.
In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man
isn’t worth walking down the altar with.
He likes to win arguments
If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins
an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once
he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag.
No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win.
Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If
your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.
He won’t take responsibility
When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for
responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like
children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even
worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes.
If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this
point.
He has an unhealthy lifestyle
If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to
lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to
be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if
he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this
kind of guy.
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