”With the help of two relationship experts, . are 12 signs you might have fallen out of love. Suzie Parkus, dating and relationship coach at Meet Your Match, says these first seven signs are ones you really need to look out for.
1. When communicating with your partner
(starting conversation, sending texts etc) feels like a sense of duty
rather than something you enjoy. The compulsion and excitement
to reach out and connect with your partner isn’t there. When you do
connect communicate, you do so out of duty because it’s part of the
relationship habits you have built up.
2. You have a mild feeling of dread when they get in touch. When receiving a message or call from your partner, there is mild feeling of dread or indifference to hearing from them.
3. You stop thinking ahead. You don’t think further ahead that the next day or week because you aren’t inspired to plan a future with your partner anymore.
4. You stop planning little things that would make them happy –
like picking up their favourite drink or recording a programme you know
they like. All the triggers you would have as reminders of your partner
you ignore. If you spot their favourite flowers or chocolate while out
you’ll walk straight past without a second thought.
5. You just exist alongside them. Your lives become parallel rather than entwined. There’ll be no PDA even when sat on sofa together.
6. You’re constantly criticising them. You can’t help yourself from internal and external criticism. Anything and everything annoys you.
7. You start to leave them out of plans. You’ll go out or do nice things without even asking them to come along.
8. You wish they would be busy on a Friday night so you can just chill or go out with friends and not have to spend time with them.
9. You start to separate yourself emotionally. You think about yourself more and them much, much less.
10. You start to just not care so much.
All the things that did bug you, like when they were late home, when
they made plans on a Saturday night and you wanted a night together,
just don’t bug you and the anger has gone, and you just don’t really
care one way or the other.
11. When you think about them you feel a bit meh. Not excited, not angry, just meh.
12. You find excuses not to have sex… a lot.
Mostly because that means being near them and communicating in some
way. Or maybe you feel comfortable with them, but the sexual attraction
is no longer there.
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