1. She’s not going to jump into bed with you. I mean, she might, but it’s not a given. Open is the status of her relationship, not her legs.....
2. She’s going to jump into bed with you. I
know what I just wrote. But you should prepare your
heart/vagina/penis/other body parts for the fact that she may be
interested in a hookup — and only a hookup.
3. You have to follow her rules if you want to play. You
have the option not to date her, but if you decide to go for it, be
aware that there may be certain agreements she’s made with her primary
partner, i.e. how often she can see you, or how intense things can be
sexually. It’s pretty unlikely those will be adjustable. People in open
relationships usually apply a lot of forethought to the architecture of
those things.
4. She’s not a “cheater.” She
didn’t decide to enter an open relationship because she is
fundamentally immoral, a moustache-twirling cartoon villain, or anyone
else who is generally careless with the feelings of others. There are
reasons monogamy doesn’t work for her. Respect that.
5. If you have any questions about how this is going to work, just ask her. She’s very, um, open. She knows exactly what she needs and she’ll be more than happy to let you know.
6. She’s opinionated, and don’t mistake her for confused. She’s
not in an open relationship because she can’t decide on one. She’s in
an open relationship because she’s self-assured in her wants and
needs, and knows how to execute them.
7. She likes 6ex. It
might not be the sole reason she is conducting additional relationships
outside of her primary one — but, yeah, she enjoys it. She enjoys it a
lot.
8. You’re going to have to work well with others.
Depending on the degree to which things heat up, you may have to make
decisions about your relationship with her that factor in other people
— namely her partner, or others you’re dating. If you’re the kind of
person who would rather write an essay than do the group project, this
might not be for you.
9. She’s emotionally mature. Don’t play games. She’s had to assess her perspective, wants, needs, and values, and
negotiate those with the perspective, needs, wants, and values of at
least one other person and likely even more. She’s not going to sweat
the small stuff — unless it’s your brain.
10. You will never, ever be bored with her. Whether
it’s for a few minutes, a few hours or a few decades, this will be an
experience you won’t forget. So let go of your preconceptions and hold
onto your hat, your heart, and the headboard.
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