According to the research done by a lawyer, these are some reasons that couples divorce in Nigeria:
1. Treason
According to a lawyer, the man does not accept being betrayed, he is the first to file for divorce when the wife develops a loving relationship with another man.
It is important to remember that men also betray and that many betrayed women try to give a new chance to save their families and others choose to divorce.
2. Monotony
The monotony in marriage is one of the factors that causes many divorces, since the fact that they always do the same thing as husband and wife make them comfortable, marital life becomes empty, leaving both parties unsatisfied and frustrated with the relationship.
In other cases, the wife abandons her careers and after years of dedication, the husband with no brakes on her tongue says that she “stopped in time and did nothing useful for the family.”
3. Money
The lack of commitment and responsibility on family finances falls on marriage, and because they do not know how to handle the situation, many couples choose to divorce.
The finance problem is certainly among the top villains of marriage. If the husband wins X it is obvious that the wife should not spend Y, that is, the financial balance should always be balanced inside the home, however, this is not what happens and for petty reasons or problems of financial disturbances some end up spending above Of the possibilities, leading the whole family to pass many needs.
4. Abuse
All the above problems are terrible to deal with in divorce, but I believe that you have no greater suffering than having to admit that the spouse was your biggest disappointment and your worst enemy, for it did not hurt your feelings but it hurt you and destroyed you. Family that you have conquered together.
However, it is worth remembering that in cases of abuse, divorce becomes enforceable, because those who truly love will never hurt and you must report.
Even though you love him and want to try to help him, the best help will be to denounce him and to seek out a specialized professional for you to learn how to deal with such a situation.
5. Trivial Expectations
Many marry believing that they will live the “happily ever after” without having to face the big dragons, such as failures, lack of financial resources, problems with their children and especially the challenges as a couple, which if they are listed will be many.
Sadly, these people become frustrated with their expectations about marriage because they will not achieve all that they desire, and because they do not know how to deal with such a situation, instead of seeking professional help, they choose to divorce.
6. Immaturity
The immature person has a narrow and erroneous concept of family relationships. She may even have the desire to have you a family, but because of her lack of preparation, she will never be able to maintain a marriage and that is why she chooses to divorce.
There are a growing number of unprepared young men who marry too soon, have not prepared themselves accurately, and do not seek to evaluate the partner in their actions, simply see what they want to see, and cover their eyes for the essential, which is related to the character and Commitment that the partner should develop during the dating period.
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