Finding the right partner can be challenging. Once you
start dating someone, you should ask yourself important questions to
determine whether such person is right for you or not. You should think
about whether your share common values and interests, how you
communicate, how he/she makes you feel, and whether he/she treats you
with respect. Once you determine your priorities and evaluate your
relationship, set some time aside to have a conversation with him/her
about your future together.
Every relationship has a
cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You
anticipate their calls, want their touch, want to around them day and
nigh, gist with them and hang out together to chat some funs and like
their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with someone
wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous
experience. You didn’t have to go extra mile, engaged in some
activities or do anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People
in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the hotness of the love faded away. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the hotness of the love faded away. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Many relationship only get hotter and stronger within two years which
is referred as” come on the high hill” and after two years it will turn
to”come off the high hill”, like diminishing return in ecommics.
Slowly
but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is
not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies,
instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary
with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner
might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on
the exitment of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that
experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The
key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person;
it’s learning to love the person you found. If you believe the
characters of your partner is bad and you think your character is the
best why can you influence him with your good characters in other to
change him/ her.
People blame their partners for their
unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment
comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common, many
people cheat on their partner simply because their the relationship had
come of the high hill while others turn it to work like chatting with ex
on social network.But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside
your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying
that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. Why not, You could.
And TEMPORARILY you will feel better. But you will soon be in the same
situation if you did not first work on yourself before bringing any
person to your world.
The key to succeeding in a
Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the
Person you found. Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous
experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time,
effort, and energy. and most importantly, it demands wisdom because
wisdom is profitable to direct . You know what to do to keep the vehicle
of the relationship moving at a jet speed.
Love is not a
mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your
partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe such as lae of
gravity, there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to
apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always, Decision Determine Destiny. The decision you take toward your marital life will determine the destination of the such matrimonial home: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
Remember this always, Decision Determine Destiny. The decision you take toward your marital life will determine the destination of the such matrimonial home: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
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