Now in reality, this phenomenon is not peculiar to my girl alone, even though most girls do not say it in that tone, they find a maneuvering way of passing the message. But the tin be say these days, economy hard! Many men neva ready to settle ooo. To marry, you need money and pepper neva rest. Engagement is the last thing on our minds. But that’s not where I am going to.
Let’s assume that your man bought the engagement ring and puts it on you in a glamorous style; in essence, he engages you. The question you should ask yourself however is have you engaged him? Have you even engaged his heart sef?
I have seen situations when a girl wears her ring and rings the alarm to her friends, and for the ones whom she does not like, flaunts it on their face with arrogance. They also push out other potential suitors within the long period of wearing this metal which I pray do not get rusted around that cute finger of theirs. This guy walks freely at least not having a band that says “Taken” on his fingers or wrist thus making him vulnerable by the multiple single ladies seeking for men to devour and even the engaged girl’s friends. In my own opinion, I think the man should also be bought an engagement ring or that the man and the woman wears no ring at all. The goal then should be engagement in their hearts and not on their fingers.
Women are not commodities you place a mark on in a large market to indicate that its been sold. Some women don’t even know this and they still prefer to be marked like yams instead.
I am speaking on behalf of the single and ready to marry ladies that will be able to think from this perspective and will not allow pressure cloud their reasoning especially at this marriageable age which your parents and friends have made you become. Studies have shown that 15% of engaged girl do not marry the engaged guy, this figure will continue to rise and as the level of economic stringency continue to soar, and you may wear that ring for months and even throw it away someday and move to the next man.
Some of these girls may be advised by friends and even their moms to take in for this guy and commit him to another level of engagement. This tactics to a large extent has worked and studies again have shown that men feel blackmailed and thus 17% of these cases that ends up in marriage do not have a happy home.
My Advice
Now the advice is before you blindly accept that ring which may not even be worthwhile, think about how many months you want to wear it before he walks you down the aisle. You may also decide to engage him too at least you feel a little bit safe that way and please do not show off to your friends on social media or even at the office – you don’t have to impress your friends with that ring, unless off course its diamonds (winks). You have to be careful until he says I do even after the marriage sef, (smiles). As for those that gets pregnant to catch him, well that one na story for another day.My ladies, be wise and be a goddess that you are, men need to worship you too. Many women have given men so much undeserving respect and placed them too high especially at when those women are at a marriageable age. Your modesty and your fake calmness and nice attitude will not make him marry you so watch it!!! – at least not all- You need to give yourself a value and avoid the pressures. Your own wouldn’t pass you by but you still need to guard your man too if not… LOL!!! Have a great day.
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