According to the singer in an interview with Pulse, a depressed person is quite different from an angry person; though a depressed person can express such depression through anger.
Waje also added that since she came into limelight, she has learnt how to guard her territory.
She further said she’s Waje on the outside, but whenever she’s at home she’s Ebele and when she’s at home, she doesn’t want to have anything to do with all the negativity on social media.
Read what she has to say on depression;
“The thing is, many times when people talk about depression, I always come from the angle where there is a difference between depression and anger. A depressed person does not even know that they are depressed, they will give every reason to think that they are not in that place. When you are depressed, you don’t want to eat, you don’t want to go out, your life stops literally.
“I have come to realise that being someone in the
limelight, you have to guard your territory, I have been in that space
where… I wouldn’t say mine was depression, mine was anger management, it
was a kind of depression but the only way I could express myself was
through anger.
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“I remember that time, that was the year we got
signed as Glo ambassadors so actually my career was doing really good.
I
just released my album, I was nominated in four categories in World
Music Awards every year, money dey come. But I had anger issues, why
because I just didn’t see myself the way I wanted to see myself. I saw
myself through everybody’s eye. I would look at you and whatever you
tell me about me is what I would accept.
“I remember one time I was so angry, I didn’t want to
break my tv because na me pay for the tv, I broke my phone, can you
imagine holding a phone and bending it like literally bending it, you
can imagine the rage for being able to break a phone.
“I have come to realise that you have to guard
yourself, you have to understand what is going on around you. You are in
the limelight, there is Waje and there is Ebele, Waje is now, we are
having this interview, Ebele is when I enter my house, don’t come and
tell me anything that is happening in social media and add to a headache
that I already have.
The only thing a depressed person needs is your
time and love, not your judgment, not telling the person that he has to
pray and trust God. Trust me the person knew about that before they went
into that state,”she said.
Waje also disclosed that she changed her friends;
“I changed my environment, the people I hung out with
a lot. I changed my friends, I started looking out for friends that
would tell me things to boost my ego. The truth is that your friend is
the person that would tell you the truth about you. What is the truth,
the is that you beautiful, you are amazing, you are peculiar, you are
unique, you are strong, you are bold, false, yes but that doesn’t take
anything away from you.
“I started spending time with friends who would lift
me up, a lot of it had to do with Uzzy because I was working with Uzzy
at that time, half the time out sections would be Uzzy talking to me, he
was like my sponsor, he was like my therapist. We would have
conversations, sometimes it was just me talking he would not even give
me any answers.
And then I go to this Present House, Pastor Tony Rapu, I
started going through that detoxifying and I was going through
discipleship, it was just a personal thing for me. Thank God I was able
to recognize love when I found it, because those that really love me, it
was in their actions, not the mouth,” she concluded.
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