It is not uncommon to
come across married men having a relationship with another woman.
Perhaps it has been happening in the past also and will continue to
happen in future too.Also I am not implying that Married Women don’t
cheat.
The reasons why men
cheat on their spouses are many and varied. The most frequent three to
four basic reasons for engaging in extra marital affairs – you must have
guessed it – had to do with sex, connection or validation and then true
love.
1. Psychological and Emotional Need
Just as a woman would look for a father figure in another man to fulfil her emotional needs for security and protection, a man too would look for an image of someone like mother figure or ex to fill a void for affection and care “that woman” can perhaps give.
The other woman would be caring and nurturing as well as be a source of strength and motivation in the times of difficulties. She may have better experiences of life or more confident, her proper support and guidance in tough situations will make him feel more confident.
Just as a woman would look for a father figure in another man to fulfil her emotional needs for security and protection, a man too would look for an image of someone like mother figure or ex to fill a void for affection and care “that woman” can perhaps give.
The other woman would be caring and nurturing as well as be a source of strength and motivation in the times of difficulties. She may have better experiences of life or more confident, her proper support and guidance in tough situations will make him feel more confident.
2. Emotional Satisfaction
For one reason or other, there may be lack of mutual understanding in the primary relationship. The husband may not feel emotional connect or feel lack of respect that he as the partner deserves. This lack of emotional satisfaction could be a compelling reason for men seeking emotional intimacy with another woman. Here physical intimacy may or may not be there.
Another variation to this could be men seeking emotional validation from someone else since the existing partners have been too busy with their individual priorities. Drifting apart over a period of time, the partners fail to acknowledge the needs that both have in their relationship. For instance, giving and receiving appreciation and emotional support are key factors in the emotional connection that partners feel toward each other.
For one reason or other, there may be lack of mutual understanding in the primary relationship. The husband may not feel emotional connect or feel lack of respect that he as the partner deserves. This lack of emotional satisfaction could be a compelling reason for men seeking emotional intimacy with another woman. Here physical intimacy may or may not be there.
Another variation to this could be men seeking emotional validation from someone else since the existing partners have been too busy with their individual priorities. Drifting apart over a period of time, the partners fail to acknowledge the needs that both have in their relationship. For instance, giving and receiving appreciation and emotional support are key factors in the emotional connection that partners feel toward each other.
3. Just for Fun
Even in a happy marriage, it is possible for men to have a roving eye or even crave affection from another lady. It is quite possible that one or both the partners involved can’t control their lust, this usually starts with locking of eyes followed by a casual affair and it quickly leads to an affair.
If caught or confronted, the logic usually given by such men is that just because someone is married does not mean that they can’t love someone else too.
Even in a happy marriage, it is possible for men to have a roving eye or even crave affection from another lady. It is quite possible that one or both the partners involved can’t control their lust, this usually starts with locking of eyes followed by a casual affair and it quickly leads to an affair.
If caught or confronted, the logic usually given by such men is that just because someone is married does not mean that they can’t love someone else too.
4. When the lady is Open to Love
No man can enter a woman’s space without her permission and vice versa. If a man gets a signal of love or invitation to a relationship which is loud and clear then only a few will decline such an invitation.
Another key understanding is that the man was waiting and was ready for love as soon as he received the invitation.
Men will easily fall in love with someone who is open, approachable and is ready to be loved.
On the other hand women also enjoy alluring men towards them.
No man can enter a woman’s space without her permission and vice versa. If a man gets a signal of love or invitation to a relationship which is loud and clear then only a few will decline such an invitation.
Another key understanding is that the man was waiting and was ready for love as soon as he received the invitation.
Men will easily fall in love with someone who is open, approachable and is ready to be loved.
On the other hand women also enjoy alluring men towards them.
5. Enjoyable Intimacy
Different studies have pointed out that women reach their sexual peak quite later in life. If their desires are too much or remain unfilled (partially or fully) they would not mind developing intimate relationship with men whom they find to be energetic, more dynamic and hot etc.
This resultant intimacy is the basis for extra marital relationship for fulfilling of purely physical desires. As a result, married men who don’t mind an extra marital affair fall for other women with an idea to improve their sex lives.
Different studies have pointed out that women reach their sexual peak quite later in life. If their desires are too much or remain unfilled (partially or fully) they would not mind developing intimate relationship with men whom they find to be energetic, more dynamic and hot etc.
This resultant intimacy is the basis for extra marital relationship for fulfilling of purely physical desires. As a result, married men who don’t mind an extra marital affair fall for other women with an idea to improve their sex lives.
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